Hello, beauties.
Fara prea multe ocolisuri, azi voi trece direct la subiect:
nu poti schimba un barbat- este un mit. Nu vorbesc din auzite, ci din propria
experienta. Sa nu credeti ca sunt genul de femeie care uraste barbatii, nu sunt
genul de feminista ajunsa la extreme. Nu, deloc, nu imi sta in caracter. Dar
sunt ferm convinsa ca nu poti schimba pe cineva. Indiferent daca e barbat sau
femeie. De ce, va intrebati? Pentru ca dorinta de schimbare trebuie initiata de
tine insuti, tu trebuie sa iti doresti acest lucru.
Without further introduction,
today I am going to go straight to the subject: you can not change a man- it's
a myth. I am speaking from my own
experience, not from things that I have heard. Don't get me wrong, I am
not that type of woman that hates men, I am not one of those extreme feminists.
Not at all, that is not me at all. But I am a firm believer that you
can not change someone, no matter what their gender is. Why, you may
ask? Because the will to want to change has to come from within, you have to
want to make a change.
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| Bee :) |
But let's get back to men, the
strong sex full of testosterone. A new relationship is like a shoe. You want to
buy a pair of new shoes, what you do first? You try them on to see if they fit.
If they fit, you will buy them (that is if you have the money). The same way is
with a relationship. At the beginning of every relationship you see what you
like/ don't like in a man. If you start a
relationship with the preconceived idea that "oh
well, I can change him the way I
like" well, that is just WRONG!!!!! Honestly, is the stupidest thing
you can do. You do not built a relationship this way. Let me get back to my
shoe analogy. If I want a pair of red shoes without a heal, well, that is what
I am going to buy. I am not going to buy a pair of black shoes, with a 10 cm
heels, so I can go home, start cutting the heels and paint the shoes in red.
That is just plain crazy.
Trebuie sa iti placa un barbat pentru calitatile si
defectele pe care le are. Nu este cinstit sa incepi o relatie in speranta
inutila de a dori sa il schimbi. Asta va declansa o cascada de frustrari, nervi
facuti cu nemiluita, certuri peste certuri, usi trantite si vorbe care
dor. Merita sanatatea ta mintala un astfel de tratament? Nu cred. Suntem
si asa stresati de viata cotidiana, de lupta permanenta cu haosul monden.
O relatie trebuie sa fie precum o oaza de liniste, relaxare si suport moral. Nu
faceti greseala de a incerca sa schimbati un barbat. Sincer, nu ne place nici
noua cand partenerul ne spune: “de ce nu te faci blonda, de ce nu mai slabesti
ca sa arati ca Angelina Jolie, de ce nu te imbraci asa etc.” Gandeste-te bine
inainte de a te implica intr-o relatie daca poti trece cu vederea sau poti
accepta in limita bunului simt, defectele pe care omu’ tau le are.
If you like a guy, you like him
for his qualities and his defects. Is not fair to start a relationship, having
the foolish hope that you can change him. This is leads to a lot of
frustrations, anxiety, verbal fights, slammed doors and saying words that hurt.
Is this really worth your mental health? I don't think so. We are already
stressed by our daily lives, by our permanent fight with the mundane chaos.
A relationship must be like an serenity oasis, full of relaxation and
moral support. Don't make the mistake to try and change a man. Honestly,
we don't like when our partner tells us: "why don't you dye your
hair blond, why don't you loose weight so you can look like Angelina Jolie, why
don't you dress this way, etc." Think thoroughly before you
get involved in a relationship, if you can accept (within the limits) the
defects he has.
Fetelor, viata este prea scurta pentru a ne irosi energia pe
astfel de ocupatii redundante. Mama mea a facut aceasta greseala, eu am facut-o
de asmenena. Nu va amagiti, nu aveti o incredere oarba si prosteasca in puterea
(pe care voi credeti ca o aveti) de a reusi sa schimbati ce nu va place la
partener. Compromisurile intr-o relatie trebuie gandite si calculate. Nu facute
pe baza unor impulsuri. Nu luati o decizie permanenta, pe baza unei emotii,
stari temporare. Sunt riscuri care se merita a fi luate, iar pentru alte
riscuri mai bine ziceti ‘pas’.
Girls listen, life is to short
to waste it doing futile things like these. My mother made this mistake, I have
also. Do not fool yourselves, don't trust blindly and stupidly that you have
the power and that you will manage to change what you don't like in your
partner. In a relationship the compromises must be well thought and calculated.
Do not make compromises based on impulses. Do not take a permanent decision,
based on temporary feelings. There are risks that deserve to be taken, but for
others just say "next".
Nu exista barbatul perfect. La fel cum nu exista femeia
perfecta. Insa tineti minte, trebuie sa accepti o persoana asa cum este. Daca
nu iti place, foarte bine. Ai dreptul de a cauta pe cel care ti se potriveste.
Iar cand il gasesti nu uita de respect. Te respect pentru ceea ce esti! Te
iubesc pentru ceea ce esti!
There is no
such thing as the perfect man. The same way as there is no such as a perfect
woman. But remember, you have to accept a person the way it is. If you don't
like the way he is, that is just fine also. You have the right to look for that
person that is the right fit. And when you find him, don't forget to respect
him. I respect you for what you are! I love you for what you are!
P.S.: Eu si Ana suntem oricand la dispozitia voastra, pentru a va ajuta cu tot ce doriti. Puteti sa ne adresati sfaturi, intrebari, sau puteti pur si simplu sa ne impartasiti framantarile voastre. Suntem aici pentru voi, sa va ascultam, sa va sprijinim si, daca putem, sa va ajutam. Ne puteti contacta la adresa
de mail ana.s_beautyblog@yahoo.com
si nu va sfiiti sa vorbiti cu noi, suntem aici pentru voi.
Ana and I would like to always be there for you
and help you with and advice, a kind word or with an encouragement. Please, if
you need any advice or have any questions or concerns, send them to us. We are
here for you, to listen, support or, if we can, help you. You can contact us at ana.s_beautyblog@yahoo.com
and don’t be shy, talk to us, we are here for you.
XoXo,
Bee
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